Monday, May 22, 2017

A Tale of Two Weddings....

Today I spent the day doing yoga, mediation and massage. In the evening there were 2 traditional Indian wdddings (350 guests & 500 guests). I was hoping to watch from afar. I ended up being invited to both and having a wonderful evening. 

The Groom's Arrival with Fireworks


The Bride's Arrival



Saturday, May 20, 2017

Day 2 Varanasi ghats where the dead are burned 24/7

Sunrise and sunset at the ghats of Varanasi. Varanasi is the oldest continuously inhabited city in the world. Over 5000 years old. And the holiest city Hindus. Yet this city's name is unknown by most non Hindus, probably because goods hotels are few, the roads treacherous and trash and animal poop everywhere. But holy. And Hindu pilgrims are everywhere. 




Friday, May 19, 2017

First day in India

My first day in India was really amazing. It was mainly about making luxury hand made carpets. First at 6am I strolled outside my hotel and found a mosque. Walking in the streets, you have to walk counter traffic to avoid getting run over. Cows, stray dogs, goats and monkeys roam the streets, eating the trash. After yoga and breakfast we visited one of Jakub's carpet manufacturers. One family  employs (directly and indirectly) about 20,009 people making carpets. Scores of villages make carpets in their homes. The owner Leique put me in one of his jeeps with a driver and I had an exceptional opportunity to visit these remote villages, where the people don't often see westerners. And because he employs everyone in these villages, people were eager to invite me into their shacks to look around. Most families live with their animals in the homes or in a room attached. The government has a program to build toilets next to dwellings. 1 toilet per family. 

*making milk



*villagers collect their cows dung , dry it and store it as sticks and then use these cow dung sticks inside their shacks as cooking fuel. 


•village shack


*making yarn in factory used to weave carpets


Our host invited us for lunch in his home. The chicken and mouton were organically fed and raised on this properties. The wheat for the bread and rice and potatoes and veggies and fruits, everything was organically grown from his gardens. 

After a massage at the hotel I walked into Hindu prayer service and was invited to participate 


Thursday, May 18, 2017

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Off to India 

On the second night of my voyage of self rediscovery I had the wonderful opportunity to make love to a woman.

That might not sound too unusual, except that I have lived as a gay man for all of my adult life. So this is a first for me. And the experience was magical and so romantic. I am still a gay man of course, but I am very grateful for this opportunity to explore areas I haven't explored before. And for me, it has set a tone of openness to new discoveries that is the purpose of this voyage.

As I start a new chapter in my life, I have this unique opportunity to disconnect temporarily from my busy and wonderful life as a restaurant owner to explore myself inward. I have traveled a great deal in the past. The purpose of this voyage is different. Although I am traveling to the other end of the earth, this is a voyage of introspection.

I have 3 hopes for this voyage.

First, I want to learn to enjoy living on my own. I have been so lucky to have lived with 2 amazing men for nearly all of the past 35 years. Now I am single and I want to enjoy myself.

Second, I hope to explore the benefits of letting go and of quietening my mind.
Over the past couple of years, I have learned how to intentionally let go of my compulsion to control things around me. I had serious control issues. And my trying to control everything wasn't making me happier or pleasant to be around. I have found that nearly every time I 'let go' of my impulse to control events or people, life flows more smoothly and the outcome are better than those I envisioned. And so on this voyage, I don't know exactly where I am headed, but I am joyful that life will mysteriously and magically unfold in ways better than if I plan everything.

I have also started meditating every day for 5-15m. And I am happier and calmer nearly all the time. I make better decisions. I am more pleasant to be with. And I am happier. It's like I've been able to change the vibrations of my mind. And so I am going to explore that more in India and Nepal for a short time. I contacted an ashram in Nepal and hope to stay there a few days.

And finally, I hope to explore many of Asia's beautiful beaches.